When Moms Attack…

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Pretty quickly most of us figure out that we will be attacked by other moms at some point or another. It often happens when we least expect it, suddenly being pounced on and ripped apart like something off of a national geographic special. We all know it’s bound to happen, yet when we are attacked by friends, family or strangers… it often leaves us shocked and speechless. And then we react. Rather than lick our wounds and carry on, we lash out and attack back often letting rage and emotion get the best of us. My question to you is this… when moms attack, how do you react?

Now before I go any further I must say that when my kids are under attack in any way shape or form… look out. I, like most moms, am a force to be reckoned with. But when another mom throws a little animosity my way, I react much differently. In recent days, I just don’t care. A friend once said to me that you can’t control what other people do or say, but you can control how you react to it. When I came under attack by another mom this last week, it felt so amazing to do absolutely nothing. Really. I wasn’t backing down. I didn’t think that their behaviour was acceptable or respectful… but I stayed silent. Why? Because it felt so good to just not care. I could have tore a strip off this other mom, because naturally I have a  lot to say… but saying nothing was so much more gratifying. You can imagine their surprise when I clearly was completely unphased by their behaviour.

A year ago I would have reacted much differently in response to a mommy attack. I would have got my panties all in a bunch over pretty much any negative comment coming my way and then stewed about it until I had a brilliant response for the next time I had a similar encounter. I’m not really sure when my attitude changed, but I would have to guess it was sometime after I met so many wonderful women through this site. So I have to say a big thank you to all the moms who have given me the confidence to just not care about any negativity that may come my way.

So for all you moms who are used to constantly defending yourself, know that you are not alone. I too,was once always playing defense with other moms. You can be sure that any animosity sent your way is triggered by one of three things: jealousy, insecurities or frustration. And none of these things have anything at all to do with you. Having finally figured this out, I find it so satisfying to not react at all to these moms who are so full of judgment and criticism. You can imagine their disappointment when the only response they get is me looking at them like they have a third eye.

I’m not saying that my feelings never get hurt, or that I am never phased by some mommy comments. And trust me, I have been known to lash out on more than one occasion. But… every so often it is so satisfying to just sit back and be comfortable with who I am, regardless of any attacks that might come my way. So to all you moms out there who have felt the wrath of another mom, know that if feels so good to just give a big invisible ‘screw you’ by not reacting at all.

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