Your house is cleaner than mine… I get it.

kitchen messSo I’ve never exactly had the cleanest or tidiest home on the block. But now that we have two children under the age of 5, I can tell you that I probably win the title of messiest house in the neighbourhood. I have many mommy friends who have immaculate houses, and others who like me, have ‘well lived in’ homes. I often feel that we as mother’s, grade each other on the way our homes look. Almost to say that if our homes are well kept, than we must have it all figured out.


I’ll never forget the time that I found out my friend was secretly hiring a maid to come in once a week and clean up her messy home (and not just from me…I was the first one she had told). For months I couldn’t figure out how this mother of two toddlers, would work crazy hours at work and have just as busy of a schedule as I did, yet her house was immaculate. At the time I was working only a few days a week and  barely managing to balance that. I felt like I could never keep up with the laundry, our countertops were always sticky and our floors were… well, our floors looked like there had just been some sort of cafeteria food fight going on.

basement_messOne day she finally spilled the beans and told me that she had someone come in once a week to do all the cleaning that she just couldn’t get to. The crazy thing about it was that she was obviously embarrassed to say ‘I can’t do it all’. Seriously? Is that what society has come to, where we can’t ask for help without feeling bad about it?

I would love to have someone come in and clean my house once a week. It would mean that I would have more time to spend with my kids. Any mom who has someone clean her house so she can have more time with her family, is doing a great job. For me, the house cleaner doesn’t fit into our budget, so I simply don’t make it a priority. Sure I keep things as tidy as possible, but I can honestly say that there are days that look like a tornado has torn through my living room. Oh, and our partially finished family room, has been unwittingly transformed into one giant playroom. I do laundry as we run out of underwear and socks. I clean countertops when things begin to stick them. I clean closets when they no longer close. I am not perfect but I do what I can to balance home, work and family.

kids_messAnd don’t worry, I haven’t forgotten those of you who do have an immaculate home. If you can accomplish a clean home while managing a family, I raise my glass to you. To find balance in your life where you can spend time with your family, manage all the mommy responsibilities and get your house spotless… you are an amazing woman!

So the moral of the story is that we all have different lifestyles and responsibilities as mothers, and we need to respect that. The fact that anyone feels bad about asking for help, showcases the disheartening reality that we don’t always embrace our differences. To all the moms with clean and dirty houses alike, keep up the great work… this mommy thing isn’t easy!


Your house is cleaner than mine… I get it. — 13 Comments

  1. A clean house is the sign of a wasted life.. At least that’s what the magnet on my fridge says.. I really really try and am only working two days, but I cannot keep up. Even with two teens in the house to “help” it still is never ending!

    • I love that you have a magnet that says that!! I wish I had room to actually see the magnets on my fridge. They are all covered with more crafts and layers of photos and notes!

  2. Great blog Janet!! So true…if I could justify hiring a maid to clean my house I would! Maybe one day lol
    I need to get back to work so I can afford it. Great idea btw.

    • Thanks Amy! I honestly don’t even know if a maid could keep up with us!! LOL. Seriously it’s like a giant wrecking crew just goes from room to room in our house, especially on the weekends. 😉

  3. I think my house is more like yours. I used to keep it spotless, the more kids I birthed the more I changed this. I realized I was tidying more then loving on the kids. I’d rather have a lived in home.

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    • No problem. One day I will post about the state of my car… which is not much better than the house. LOL