Are you a mean mommy?

So earlier this week I posted about my ‘mean mommy moment’. I received an overwhelming response from other moms who had indeed made the same mistake that I had…judged another mom. I was worried that perhaps my brutal honesty would make me out to be an awful ‘mommy monster’, but luckily that was not the case. So today I pose a simple question that we should all ask ourselves- are you a mean mommy? Don’t worry, if you answer yes to any of these questions, I can assure you that you are not alone.

1. Have you ever compared yourself to another mother just so you could feel better about your own insecurities as a mom?

2. Have you ever competed with other moms, constantly comparing your own child’s successes to their failures? (this is much different from simply being a proud mama)

3. Have you ever lied about your own challenges to another mom to either make her feel bad, or yourself feel better?

4. Have you ever implied that you were just a better mom than someone else?

5. Have you ever stared, pointed, eye rolled, whispered or snickered while watching another mom struggle?

6. Have you ever assumed that a child’s challenges were the result of a mom’s parenting skills?

7. Have you turned a blind eye to a mom in need because it was an inconvenience?

8. Have you ever replaced jealousy of another mom with judgement?

These are just a few questions that you may want to ask yourself. The truth of the matter is that no one is perfect, not even mothers! But what we can do is consciously try to stop ourselves from hurting other moms, and simply be kind caring human beings. For crying out loud, we all know how hard the job of a mother is, the least we can do is try to help each other out.

So next time you think you are on the verge of judging another mom, please think of this website and the TELL ANOTHER MOM mission. Tell another mom that she is doing a great job. Or maybe, tell another mom that you too struggle with the same things that she does. After all, none of us are perfect!


Are you a mean mommy? — 8 Comments

  1. I like to think I am not a mean mom at all, but the truth is, I have done some of those things. However, now that I have 3 kids, I find that I am a little bit more understanding and have the attitude, “Do what makes your family happy” a lot more often. The problem I run into is when I see other Moms giving me looks. It makes it hard for the claws not to come out and for me to give ugly looks right back. Thanks for a great post!

  2. I have several yeses on the questions above. I had no idea that I was already being a “mean mommy” to other moms.Great post! Visiting for Bloggy Moms

    • I’m sure if you even took the time to read ‘are you a mean mommy?’ that you are an amazing person. I just find that sometimes I need to have something happen to myself before I realize that perhaps I made someone else feel bad in the past. The questions showcased moments that I have both experienced and unintentionally been a part of. Thanks for stopping by.

    • I never realized how great it felt to have someone tell you that you are a good mom until recently. Started my whole idea for the blog. Thanks for the visit and comment.